Internet dating used to be an embarrassment to those who used it. Most started using the dating apps not out of desperation exactly, but more due to the feeling of adventure and the unknown it brought. Today, while we still hear of horror stories about stalkers and trolls and of love gone wrong which started on the internet; but recent statistics have shown that more than 15% of Americans have found love on dating sites or apps. What’s even more surprising is that over one third of couples who met on- line have married.
If you are a grown woman, are you looking for love on these dating sites? Is so, there are a few things you should know. Read on to find a few tips on how the system works, and how you can work it in the right way.
Do Your Due Diligence
If you see a potential date on a site, take a good look at a few things. First of all, why not run a Google image search of the photo? Doing this will take you to links for places like Facebook and Instagram accounts.
A lot of times, scammers will borrow photos from these sites. If you find this person on these alternate sites, look for things that look too perfect, or the language is off. You can also see family members and other things that will alert you that what you see is not as advertised. Also, if he says he has run up on hard times and needs money—turn around and walk away, or at least break off the conversation.
This is also a good time to check out the relationship status of your potential Romeo. Sadly, it is not uncommon for married or attached males to look for a little fun outside their current relationship, so if you see anything that vaguely looks suspicious, he may not be the man for you.
Make Your Profile About You, Not About Your Dream Partner
According to some experts on cyber dating, your profile should be a reflection of who you are. It would be a good idea to ask trusted friends or family about their perception of you before putting it into your own words and posting it. You don’t want to be too sugary sweet but do remember to highlight your best qualities.
Keep in mind, you do not want to attract just anyone, so only a third of the profile should be about the kind of person you want to take notice. If a man sends you a picture of his private bits, it could be that he thinks that what women really want, even in a casual relationship. Who knows? He may have tried it before and it worked, so he thought it would again. If that is what you are looking for, then all is good. If not, keep looking. It is the law of averages that perhaps you will find the right one along the way.
Conclusion
Most experts believe that when looking for the right person, it is best to look at just one profile. But, at the same time don’t over do it. Most human brains can deal with three to nine contacts at the most before becoming overwhelmed. Another tip is to try and appreciate the bad dates, if you have one. They often make the best stories and also give you great experience with how to improve them.